Sending a Valentine’s Day card is one of the most traditional and popular ways of celebrating with your partner each February. It is a simple, yet cute and thoughtful way to show your appreciation for the amazing person you share your life with. But what if there was a way to make it even more personal, even more meaningful, and bring you closer together?
I’m Jess, and I run Jess A Little Creative, a small greeting card business from my home studio in Cheltenham. I spend my whole year designing, packaging and sending out unique and thoughtful greeting cards to help bring people closer together, and I am passionate about making it as personal and special as possible.
Today I am going to be sharing ideas around how you can use your partner’s love language to write them a truly personal Valentine’s Day card.
Don’t know what I mean by the term love language? No worries, I’ll be explaining all further down.
But basically, we’ll be tapping into the things that truly mean a lot to your partner, and incorporating them into your Valentine’s Day card this year, to make it even more special.
These ideas are super easy to implement, and will be sure to put the biggest smile on your partner’s face this Valentine’s Day. So let’s get stuck in…
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Typographic LOVE Valentine's Day card, Jess A Little Creative
What are love languages?
So before we get to the ideas, let’s discuss what I mean by love languages.
There are 5 ‘love languages’, and each language represents a way that romantic partners express and experience love.
This is all based on a book by Gary Chapman called ‘The Five Love Languages: The Secret To Love That Lasts’. I will be giving a very brief overview of the concept in this article, but you can find out more about love languages here.
The 5 love languages defined by Chapman in his book are as follows:
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Receiving Gifts
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch
Chapman created a theory that stated that every person has a primary and a secondary love language, and paying attention to these can massively improve your connection and communication with your romantic partner.
You can find out your own and your partner’s love language by taking a quiz on the 5 love languages website here.
My own love language is words of affirmation, which wasn’t a huge surprise to me. I started my greeting card business because I have always loved cards, which makes sense if I express and experience love best through words. Having these words and messages written down in a card gives me a way to access them anytime I need a boost from someone I love.
My partner’s love language is completely different to mine, and so how we give and receive love is very different. It is really important to be aware of these things, as it can help you support and love your partner in a way that they will really respond to.
When it comes to sending a Valentine’s Day card, there are ways you can incorporate these love languages into the act of writing and sending a Valentine’s Day card to make the whole event much more personal, and suited to your partner’s own love language.
I have come up with various ideas based on each of the love languages below. Feel free to use them as inspiration, or come up with your own ideas after reading. Have fun with it!
Romantic Moonlit Swans Valentine's Day card, Jess A Little Creative
If your partner’s love language is Words Of Affirmation…
Compliments and words of encouragement mean the world to people whose love language is words of affirmation. These words are what help them feel connected and loved. For people whose love language is words of affirmation, sending a Valentine’s Day card is one of the most important things you can do. Here are some ideas to make it even more special…
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Take the time to write a really special message inside their Valentine’s Day card. It will mean the world, and really help them feel loved.
Knowing what to write can be hard if your own love language isn’t words of affirmation, so check out this other blog I wrote, which contains lots of Valentine’s Day card messages you can copy or use as inspiration: 23 Thoughtful Valentine's Day Card Messages For Your Partner
- You could write a little poem inside their Valentine's Day card, instead of a traditional message. This extra effort and use of words will really help your partner feel loved and special.
- Ensure you choose a Valentine’s Day card that features a message either on the front or inside that really resonates with your partner. These words make them feel safe and loved, so taking the time to pick one that feels personal will make all the difference.
I Love The Life We Have Built Together Valentine's Day Card, Jess A Little Creative
If your partner’s love language is Physical Touch…
Wondering how you can make a Valentine’s Day card more personal to someone whose love language is physical touch? Here are some ideas…
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Choose a Valentine’s Day card which references hugs or kisses, or physical closeness. Showing you recognise that this physical touch is very important to your partner, will show them you understand their needs and will make them feel so loved.
This is especially important if you’re spending Valentine’s Day apart and so won’t get the chance for any real physical contact.
- Buy (or make) a Valentine’s Day card with a tactile element on the front, like a fluffy heart. People who enjoy and respond well to physical touch, will love a tactile element to their card. It’s like combining a Valentine’s Day card and a hug together in one.
- If you are spending Valentine’s Day with your partner, then ensure you are sat by them, holding their hand, or hugging them when you give them their Valentine’s Day card, so they feel that closeness. It shows that extra bit of thought and love that you understand what makes them feel loved. It's a tiny gesture, but will make a huge difference.
I'd Be Lost Without You Valentine's Day Card, Jess A Little Creative
If your partner’s love language is Acts Of Service…
For those with a love language of acts of service, it’s all about what you do, not what you say, that makes them feel the most loved. The age-old phrase of ‘actions speak louder than words’ rings very true to these people.
Here are some ideas for how you can incorporate acts of service into a Valentine’s Day card…
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Make some acts of service vouchers to put inside the Valentine’s Day card.
For example: ‘This voucher entitles you to a freshly mown lawn, a tidy and organised pantry, some new bedroom shelves… etc etc’ Make the vouchers based on some tasks that you know your partner would really like completed, this will help them feel loved and connected to you.
Make sure you do actually complete the task as well though, writing the voucher is only half the job! Remember this love language is all about actions, not words.
- In every relationship, jobs and chores are distributed to ease the load (or at least they should be!) Why not cross some of those chores off your partner’s list this Valentine’s Day?
For example, do the laundry, even if it’s not normally your job, or not your turn to do it, and leave their Valentine’s Day card waiting for them, on top of a pile of freshly washed and folded laundry. What a lovely surprise that will be for your partner, who feels truly connected through acts of service.
- Give them their Valentine’s Day card over a romantic dinner you have cooked for them. By taking the time to do this nice thing for them, especially if they are the one who normally does the cooking, will be a huge deal for them. It will show a lot of love, and let them know you understand and care for them.
Romantic Moonlit Swans Valentine's Day card, Jess A Little Creative
If your partner’s love language is Receiving Gifts…
This doesn’t have to be expensive. For people whose love language is receiving gifts, it’s all about how meaningful the gift is, not the cost of it. So don’t feel pressure to spend lots.
Here are some ways to incorporate the love language of receiving gifts into your Valentine’s Day card.
- Put a voucher for something special inside the Valentine’s Day card.
This could be tickets to an event or day out for you and your partner, or a voucher for something you know they really want. It’s a great way to incorporate the gift with the Valentine’s Day card, and show your partner you understand what means the most to them.
- You could turn the Valentine’s Day card into a gift. Some Valentine’s Day card designs incorporate a little gift onto the front which forms part of the design, like a bookmark or a coaster. If, for example, the coaster features a special or meaningful design that would mean a lot to your partner, it is the perfect way to incorporate gift giving.
- Write a clue inside the Valentine’s Day card to where their gift is hidden.
You can take this idea as far as you want, incorporating several clues and turning it into a proper treasure hunt, or simply putting one clue in the Valentine’s Day card which will lead them straight to the gift. It uses the Valentine’s Day card in a fun way to draw attention to the gift, which is the part that will really make them feel loved.
Life Is Better With You Lovebirds Valentine's Day Card, Jess A Little Creative
If your partner's love language is Quality Time…
Quality time is something we could all do with more of these days, but it is especially important to those whose love language is quality time. But how do you combine quality time with a Valentine’s Day card? Here are some ideas…
- Plan a proper date night or day together, either on Valentine’s Day or close to it, and give them their Valentine’s Day card then. They will hugely love and appreciate the time you have spent together celebrating.
- Put a voucher inside the Valentine’s Day card for an activity you can do together.
It could be a couple’s massage, tickets to a show you both love, or maybe even a season ticket or membership to one of their favourite places. Your partner will love that you have this time together to look forward to.
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Make some ‘date night’ vouchers which can be put inside the Valentine’s Day card, and used throughout the year.
It can be hard to make time for one another, and this can be especially damaging if your partner’s love language is quality time. Commit to as many date nights as you can with the vouchers, to use throughout the year. It’s something for you both to look forward to, and will mean the world to your partner.
I'd Be Lost Without You Valentine's Day card, Jess A Little Creative
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So there you have it, writing a Valentine’s Day card doesn’t need to be boring or predictable. It can be adapted and have extra personal touches added to make it special to your partner, based on their love language.
Sending a Valentine’s Day card is a great way to celebrate the season of love, but adding these extra ideas can really help you regain connection as a couple, show your partner what they mean to you, and make the whole event super special and memorable.
Do let me know if you loved these ideas and used any of them in your own Valentine’s Day celebrations, I’d love to hear from you so please do get in touch.
If you still need to buy a Valentine’s Day card, all the images featured in this blog are of my own unique Valentine’s Day card designs which can be purchased online. Do head to the Valentine’s Day card collection to take a look and pick your favourite.
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All that’s left for me to say now is that I hope you and your partner have a truly magical Valentine’s Day, and allow each other’s love languages, and your beautiful relationship, to be celebrated in all its glory.
Enjoy, and thanks so much for reading. Love, Jess x
